Being caught in the middle of your parents unresolved pain.
The rejection that comes from being caught in the middle of your parents’ unresolved pain is one of the most confusing and difficult wounds to carry. Imagine being rejected not for who you are, but because of who your father was, or the pain your mother experienced through him. It is a story that existed long before you came into this world, yet you are the one who carries the punishment for wounds that were never yours. What it is not is your fault, your identity, or your destiny. It is not a sign that you are unlovable, it is not a curse upon you, and it is not something you are bound to repeat. It is the projection of unprocessed pain, and the key to healing is recognizing that truth.
From love’s perspective, rejection from a parent is never about your worth. Love reminds you that you were born innocent, deserving of belonging, and whole. Love sees the wound but also whispers that you are not defined by the choices or pain of your parents. Love invites you to create belonging within yourself and to find relationships that reflect your true value.
From fear’s perspective, being rejected by your mother because of your father is terrifying. Fear convinces you that you are unwanted, unsafe, and that rejection will always follow you. It can cause you to shrink, to silence your truth, or to reject yourself before others can. Fear perpetuates the story of abandonment, but it is only a story, not the truth of your being.
From sadness’s perspective, the wound of parental rejection is heartbreaking. Sadness knows the grief of a child’s longing to be held and loved by their mother, only to be met with distance or anger. It is the grief of carrying wounds that were never yours, of inheriting pain instead of safety. Sadness invites you to honor these tears, to allow the grieving process, and to soften into the truth that this pain deserves to be felt.
From psychotherapy’s perspective, rejection rooted in unresolved parental dynamics is often intergenerational trauma. A mother may unconsciously transfer her unresolved anger toward the father onto the child. This is a survival coping mechanism, but it leaves deep scars. Therapy helps to untangle these patterns, to see clearly where the rejection originated, and to separate the child’s identity from the parent’s unprocessed pain.
From the soul’s perspective, this wound is not punishment but part of your soul’s curriculum. The soul chose to experience and transcend this rejection in order to awaken deeper compassion, strength, and wisdom. Your soul knows you are never rejected at the highest level — you are always held, always connected, always belonging to life itself.
From quantum science’s perspective, the energy of rejection is an imprint. When your mother projects her unresolved pain about your father onto you, it becomes encoded in your energy field. But energy is not fixed. When you bring awareness, compassion, and intention to this imprint, you change its frequency. You free yourself, and in doing so, you shift the resonance of the family field, breaking cycles that have been repeated for generations.
From the perspective of money, rejection can create subconscious blocks. If you carry the story that you are unwanted, you may also unconsciously reject abundance, opportunities, or prosperity. Healing this wound opens the door to receiving, because when you affirm that you are worthy of love and belonging, you also affirm that you are worthy of receiving life’s gifts in all forms.
On a personal note, after years of trying to figure out why my mother rejected me, I learned that it had little to do with me and everything to do with her unresolved pain toward my father. It is wild to realize that survival mechanisms can run so deep that a mother rejects her own child because she cannot bear to face her own hurt. The moral of the story is that the odds were always stacked against me. My mother does not want to feel her pain about my father, so I receive the punishment of her unprocessed feelings. Wild stuff, yet profoundly human. The feeling of not belonging is one of the deepest wounds we can carry. To belong is to feel safe, accepted, and seen. When this is missing, we can feel lost, invisible, or broken. But what it is not is proof that we are unworthy of love. The sense of not belonging is not the truth of who we are, it is the imprint of our experiences.
Final thoughts: rejection is not your identity. It is not proof of your lack of worth. It is a reflection of another’s unhealed wounds. You belong here, to yourself, to life, and to the truth of your being. Healing begins when you stop carrying the pain that was never yours to carry.
Here is a 6-step exercise to help you with the wound of rejection:
Pause and acknowledge the rejection you feel without judgment.
Place your hand on your heart and say, “This was never about me.”
Visualize giving back the pain to where it belongs — to the dynamics between your parents — and affirm, “I release what was never mine to carry.”
Imagine your younger self surrounded in light and tell them, “You are innocent, you are loved, you belong.”
Release through breath, journaling, sound, or movement, letting the stuck energy move out of your system.
Close with gratitude and affirm, “I choose to belong to myself, to life, and to love.”
Your subconscious already knows the truth: you were never the problem. Somewhere deep within, a quiet voice is guiding you to step into healing and freedom. If it feels right for you, you may choose to book a remote session with Nicoline now, allowing yourself to experience this transformation in a safe and supportive space. You may also feel inspired to write positive comments, and to share this blog with a friend or loved one who would benefit, because healing multiplies when it is shared. You are ready, you are supported, and you are free.
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Nicoline C Walsh
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