Reframing
Reframing Experience: Changing the Lens to Change Your Life
Reframing is the conscious choice to see an experience through a new lens. It doesn’t mean denying what happened or pretending pain didn’t occur—it means giving yourself permission to explore new meaning. Reframing helps you transform an experience from something that once limited you into something that expands you. It’s not about bypassing reality or painting over pain with positive thinking. It’s about choosing the most empowering interpretation of your truth. What reframing is not: it’s not about dismissing your hurt, invalidating your feelings, or pretending everything is okay. It is not spiritual bypassing or toxic positivity. It does not mean making excuses for others' harmful behaviour. It is not about rewriting history—it’s about reclaiming your relationship with it. What reframing is: it is the art of shifting your perspective so you can reclaim your power. It is saying, “This happened, but it does not define who I am now.” It’s finding the gift within the wound, the wisdom in the struggle, the growth in the challenge. Reframing is how you stop reliving your past and start reshaping your future.
From a love perspective, reframing allows you to meet others with compassion without abandoning yourself. You begin to understand that others act from their own wounds and limitations—not necessarily from a place of intentional harm. Reframing in love helps you soften resentment, release blame, and move from control to understanding. But most importantly, it deepens self-love. You stop judging your past choices and start honouring them as the best you could do with what you knew at the time. This becomes the foundation for more honest and loving relationships, where vulnerability and responsibility replace blame and shame.
From a psychotherapy perspective, reframing is a core tool in cognitive-behavioral therapy and trauma work. It allows you to interrupt old thought patterns, rewrite internal narratives, and shift from victimhood to agency. Reframing creates space between stimulus and response—space that is necessary for healing. You might go from “I was abandoned because I wasn’t lovable” to “That person didn’t have the capacity to love me, and it had nothing to do with my worth.” Psychologically, reframing begins the process of rewiring the brain—turning pain into insight, and insight into freedom.
From a soul perspective, reframing is remembering. Remembering that your experiences are not random. They are part of your soul’s curriculum. Your soul came here to evolve through contrast. Challenges are not punishments, but portals. When you reframe a difficult experience, you align with your soul’s higher knowing. You stop seeing life as happening to you and start living as if life is happening for you—even when it hurts. This doesn’t mean staying in toxic situations, but understanding that each moment offers you a choice: to wake up or to stay asleep. Reframing is choosing awakening.
From a quantum science perspective, your thoughts and beliefs shape your reality. When you reframe your perception, you are literally changing the energetic frequency you operate from. Every thought emits a signal. Negative interpretations lower your vibration and draw in similar experiences. Reframing raises your frequency, reshaping your electromagnetic field and drawing in higher-aligned realities. The observer effect in quantum physics teaches that how you observe something changes its outcome. Reframing is a conscious shift in observation—one that alters your field, your focus, and your future.
From a personal perspective, reframing is how you become your own safe space. It’s how you learn to hold your past self with kindness instead of judgment. It’s how you choose peace over pain, power over passivity. Personal growth isn’t about having a perfect past—it’s about making peace with it. When you reframe, you stop telling the story that broke you and start telling the one that built you. You become the author again, not just the character.
Here is a 6-step exercise to support you in reframing an experience:
Identify the Triggering Experience – Choose a memory or situation that still carries emotional charge. Write down exactly what happened, as you currently see it.
Name the Story You Tell Yourself – What meaning have you given this event? For example, “They left me, so I must not be lovable.” Write this without judgment.
Feel the Feelings Fully – Before shifting the story, honour the original emotion. Anger, sadness, grief—let it rise. Let it move.
Ask a Higher Question – What else could this mean? What might my soul want me to learn from this? What strength did I gain?
Reframe with Empowerment – Create a new sentence: “This experience taught me…” or “I now choose to believe…” Focus on growth, not blame.
Anchor the New Belief – Repeat your reframe daily. Journal about it. Speak it aloud. Visualize your life shaped by this new perspective.
Final thoughts: Reframing doesn’t erase the past—it reshapes its impact. It turns wounds into wisdom. It’s how you reclaim your narrative, your energy, your power. It’s how you choose love over fear, clarity over confusion, truth over trauma. Life will not always be kind, but you can always be kind to yourself in how you interpret it. Reframing is a sacred act of self-liberation—and you are always one thought away from seeing everything differently
Lots of love always,
Nicoline C Walsh
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